Discussing the way I feed my son with other parents is tough for me. It’s something I try to avoid at all costs. But with Ryder’s “different” style of eating, it just can’t be avoided sometimes. Today, when I dropped Ryder off at daycare, I had a mommy stop me to ask me about the foods I feed him. Her son is exactly one month younger than Ryder and she heard that I bring all of Ryder’s 300 (it’s actually six, but feels like 300) containers of healthy snacks to school every day and she wanted to know what I pack so she can start introducing her son to healthy finger foods.
This is something I avoid because I never want other parents to feel like they aren’t doing a good job. Literally, every time I am searching for recipes or anything food related, I find something wrong with what I am eating or feeding my family. No matter what we do, someone will always be there to tell us we are wrong. It’s important to do what we think is best and as long as we feel good about it, no one else’s opinions matter.
I generally start those conversations I am trapped into (but secretly, I could go on and on all day) with “I am just that weird mom…” I know there is the idea that we should all try to educate and help each other, but at the same time, there are conflicting studies for everything. I think it’s well understood (at least by most of society) that eating fruits and vegetables are healthy, but the other stuff gets tricky. I am not going to pretend that I know everything (or anything) and that my way shouldn’t be the weird way. Ryder eats different from most (if not all) of the kids at his school and therefore, I am weird. I did discuss the foods I feed to Ryder and let her know my tips for when I was afraid to give him finger foods.
I think food gets so confusing today because people are so opinionated and not afraid to forcefully try to get everyone to be the way they are. You hear so many conflicting things-eat a ton of meat/stop eating meat or you will get cancer, you need whole grains every day/your body can’t process grains, drink milk for calcium/you will die if you ingest dairy. I think it’s important to take a step back from everything we read and really think for ourselves. How do you feel when you eat meat? How about grains? What about dairy? For me, I know the way I feel when I eat certain foods, so for the most part, I try to avoid them. We should never make anyone, especially other parents, feel bad about what they eat. When did it become so common for us to be so sure that everyone needs to be like us because we are right?
Now that I got all of that out, I’ll be gathering a list of the snacks I make for Ryder in case anyone finds it useful. When I was fist getting Ryder onto finger foods, it was terrifying for me. When the universe was telling me to feed him crackers and sugar snacks because they were easy, I just didn’t want to yet. So I had to get creative. I’ll compile this list and share in another post.
Does anyone feel this way or am I just a nut?